10 November 2021

Sometimes when I meet someone, I tend to share a lot. And this can seem strange to others. Why am I sharing so much? Why are my views seemingly so strong? Why do I seem so sure of myself? Am I lecturing?

I share my thoughts excessively because I am not sure how long I have with people I meet. And I want to take every opportunity to interact. Learn if I can, teach if I must. To me, an exchange of ideas can help sharpen the minds of those engaging in the conversation, for myself and others.

Naturally, the individual has to make me feel that he is interested. I’m not particularly eager to rattle on, though sometimes people can seem interested when they are not, and I read them wrongly. Being someone who has had quite a dramatic life, I see the value because I think it allows others to leverage my experience, which may come in useful for them someday. 

And if they have something valuable to share, I would want to learn too. Because you never know if someone will give you a perspective that changes your entire outlook in life. But one bad habit of mine is to talk more than I listen. 

All these benefits seem to outweigh the negative outcome of some people thinking that I am weird. Perhaps the most crucial point I want to make is this isn’t a one-way street. I may seem passionate or convicted in my beliefs, but I am sharing it to be corrected if necessary. I am sharing because I want others to cross-check my thoughts and voice out if they think I am wrong. After all, that is how I believe I will learn.

Categorized as Journal

By ben@sgben.com

Hi, I am Benjamin. I am a Singaporean son, born and bred. I came from a modest background, just like most Singaporeans and went to mainstream schools like most middle-class Singaporeans. What makes me different is my unconventional choices and journey in life, giving me more profound insights. Entering a secondary school infested with secret societies in the earlier days exposed me to a different side of Singapore. I graduated well despite having a volatile phase. I chose one of the youngest polytechnics despite having a score good enough for JC, even as others tell me it is not recognised, and I would not make it into university through that path. During my National Service, I also went through a difficult phase of rediscovering the purpose of serving. My university was another defining chapter, spanning over nine years, involving many adventures and endeavours. As you can see, I seldom bother myself with dogmas. I strongly believe in Steve Job's speech at Stanford University. I hope to lead others by example, inspire them to do the same and empower the decisions they have to make in their lives. Reach me at sgBen.com.

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